Hollow
What does having a boyfriend mean?
I mean, it’s great having someone to share your ups and downs with but what happens when that person whom you’re supposed to share everything with is emotionally unavaliable and physically absent? Then I don’t think the parties involved can be called “in a relationship”.
There is an exception to the physically absent part though, it’s when both parties are in a long-distance relationship. I actually sometimes think long distance relationships are best because the couple tends to connect more intimately mentally and emotionally. They always have the need to ask, “How was your day?” “Are you feeling okay?” because they truly need to know what’s going on in each other’s lives. The physical aspect might be absent but they are truly in a relationship because there is love and care sent across the distance through their communication.
However, mere titles of “boyfriend” and “girlfriend” are insignificant when the presence is hollow. It’s like calling plastic fruits “food” even though you can’t eat it. When I say when that the presence is hollow, it means there is no connection being established, no communication, no attention… there is no emotion shared. Technically speaking, you say you’re in a relationship but there is no emotional contact. You don’t touch base with each other’s lives. In fact, both parties don’t seem to give a damn. They just go on with their busy lives, hardly sparing a thought to each other. When they do finally find it convenient, they go out on a date. Afterwards, its the same pattern of indifference and apathy.
It’s so sad really, how some relationships have been reduced to that.
